Growing up I was told I was too sensitive and that my feelings were too big. I interpreted these messages to mean that my feelings were wrong and I was somehow wrong, which left me feeling steeped in shame. My feelings and sensitivity persisted even when I tried to push them away with alcohol and drugs. Today, after being sober for twenty-five y... [Read More]

Our culture is addicted to the values of knowing, clarity, and having a plan. In these uncertain times, many of us are experiencing waves of anxiety and fear. One antidote is to allow yourself to be in a space of inquiry. Allow yourself to revel in the unknown. Doing so is  an opportunity to explore different parts ... [Read More]

This global pandemic is not a vacation. It is a crisis. Yes, there are some silver linings, but I am more interested in being honest with feelings and noticing the grief, disappointment, anger, discouragement, and frustration first. I too often see and sometimes fall into a pattern of spiritual bypassing. This way of coping never works. It is no... [Read More]

Communication is tricky between human beings. Each person comes into a communication with their combination of experience, perspective, values, and beliefs, which do not always align with the person you are communicating with. Human beings are wired for connection, and one of the most frequent ways we connect is through language. A consistent pa... [Read More]