Forgive Yourself

Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for past choices that did not turn out as you wished. Forgive yourself for not being kind to your heart, body, and soul. Forgive yourself for not being where you thought you would be at this time in your life. Forgive yourself for caring too much or being too sensitive. Forgive yourself for not being kind. Just, simply forgive yourself.

My clients often express regret for staying in a job or industry too long. They regret that they didn’t follow their passion or heart when they were younger, and they regret that they put other people’s priorities above themselves.

The way to freedom and peace is to forgive yourself wholeheartedly and with compassion. This human experience is so complex. We are so dynamic and every choice you made led you to this very moment reading this very sentence right now. So forgive yourself.

I believe this life we live is sacred. Whether you are a janitor or a CEO, the work you do is sacred. This human experience is sacred. Don’t waste time regretting or beating yourself up. Simply lean into forgiveness and add a big dose of compassion. We get to choose a new experience, a new perspective every moment of every day. If you veer in a direction that does not feel right, take time to pause and then reset.

There is enough judgment in this world, there is enough shame in this world. We need more forgiveness, more compassion, and more love. These are the key ingredients to connect with your purpose.

Forgiveness means letting go of the past and accepting the present. When you can let go and trust you are right where you are supposed to be, then you open the door to freedom and possibility.

Here are some inquiry questions to move you toward self-forgiveness:

  • How can forgiveness offer me freedom?
  • What is powerful about forgiveness?
  • What am I holding onto when I don’t forgive?
  • What is the cost of not forgiving?

Please, know that forgiveness is yours to have. It is a practice and is always available to you. If you are in the land of self-judgment, slow down, breathe bring in some compassion and forgive yourself.