In any life transition such as changing careers, moving, divorce, retirement, new motherhood etc., please be GENTLE with yourself. Take tiny steps. Lean more towards creating more space in your life; space to breathe, walk, contemplate, meditate, pray, play and rest.
There can be a natural desire to fill the gap, or push through that change. But for a more sustainable transition, going slow and feeling what needs to be felt will serve you best. It will help you stay present and connected to yourself and life, then this will naturally lead to your next right action.
A courageous step in any life transition is feeling the grief. The grief of what was or what you had hoped. Give yourself loving permission to say goodbye to that old chapter and welcome in the new. Allow yourself to gently open to the unknown, then simply take one tiny step at a time.
I love this poem by John O’Donohue:
For a New Beginning
In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.
For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness growing inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.
It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the gray promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.
Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.
Though your destination is not yet clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is at one with your life’s desire.
Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.
Yes, soon, you will be home in a new rhythm and season. You are right on time; your new beginning is unfolding as it should. Trust yourself.